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Saturday, 30 September 2017

"Romance? What Romance?" - Has the Era of the Old Fashioned Gentleman Died Out?

Lately I'm pondering if the kind of guy I'm looking for actually still exists out there. If you know me personally, you'll know that I've been single for coming up to 5 years nearly. It's not because I haven't looked, and it's not because I haven't been on dates, but the kind of men I'm meeting on the channels recommended for doing so, simply aren't the sort that I want my next relationship to be with.

I'm not judging; hey, if 'Hi. How are you?', one word replies and then 'What bra size are you?' is what you're after from a man, that's completely fine, but I've been there, done that and at the end of the day, it's simply not what I want. Maybe I've been spoiled with Hollywood romance films and tv shows where the guy always turns out to be a good'un in the end, but surely there are still some men out there who can hold a conversation and show an interest in more than the immediate physical assets in front of them?

It's all about the upbringing; I've grown up with a strong sense of family, where even though my parents aren't together anymore and there have been separation and divorce elsewhere along the way, my grandparents for example, have been solidly together (last anniversary before my grandad passed was their 60th I believe) and wherever they went together, they always walked hand in hand. You could see from the way he looked at her, right up to the last day, that he absolutely adored her and wanted to do everything he could just to see her smile. The day before he passed was their anniversary, and even though he was bed bound in their house and hardly able to move, he found a way to get a beautiful bunch of roses delivered to her, even though in that state she had asked noone to mention the upcoming anniversary because she was certain he wouldn't know what day of the week it was, let alone the date and month.

Sometimes,  I look around and think maybe I'm asking too much and I should settle for what is available, and then I see my 'baby' cousin, now 23 years old, holding doors open for me to walk through and refusing to let me pay for coffees or dinner, simply because that's the way he's been brought up and I'm reassured that there must still be men out there who are decent and kind, and have old fashioned mannerisms that if you're not used to them, make you blush and smile a little to yourself.

Am I the only one wanting a little romance and respect from a partner or do you agree with me? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

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