A somewhat scattered collection of notes, thoughts and ideas

Monday, 7 September 2015

The Single Girl's To-Do List

 Firstly, in case you are not aware, this is actually the title of a book by the very talented Lindsey Kelk, and also the inspiration behind this post and my entire last two years. If you haven't read it, you should (regardless of whether you are single or not) this book is brilliant - I highly recommend it.

                                    Available on Amazon or as an ebook for Kindle and iBooks. 

Anyhoo, this isn't a book review post, (though if you want my personal thoughts on it, I can write a review of it, no problem), but to give you an understanding of what I'm talking about, I am going to give you a basic overview of the story. A girl finds herself to be single somewhat unexpectedly, and for the first time in her life it's not of her choosing. Her two friends attempt to help her get through it and in the process compile a list of things that she has to do before she can officially announce herself as single. Oh and there's a time limit in which she has to do everything on her list. It really is a great book.

So when I read this (the title caught my eye), I happened to have recently got out of a relationship myself, and after reading it, I suddenly had a completely different view of being single. In the past it has always seemed a bit depressing, especially when every social media seems to be full of people's romances and everyone around you is engaged or shoving wedding pictures in your face. I know, I sound like a grinch haha, but that's how it can come across at times (if you're single, I'm sure you can relate).

Anyway I read this book and it changed how I see being single - it's your personal unlimited allowance of 'me time'. Have you ever wanted to do something/ travel somewhere and then not been able to because suddenly someone new has come into your life? I have. After my first long term relationship, I swore that I'd have the next year for myself because not only had I wasted my first year at uni, I also knew I'd have a my year abroad coming up in the third year which could complicate a relationship, so I was determined not to get involved with anyone. Second day back at uni and that plan went completely out of the window (and I was right, my year abroad did add complications).
Looking at singledom in this new light, inspired me to make my own list, not of things to do before I can declare myself single, but of things I want to do and places that I want to visit myself and that I don't necessarily need a boyfriend for. I made my list around this time two years ago, and looking over it, I can say that I have managed to complete a few of the things on there (just to be clear, I didn't set myself a time limit). My list isn't in any kind of order, though you will be able to see for yourself that a few things are more easily achieved than others.

I'm not saying I have to do all the things on my list, while single, but more that these are a list of things I want to do and can do with or without a boyfriend. I had started to achieve the 'make over' and 'exercise regime' parts, but have decided I'm hitting 'refresh' on those so haven't ticked them off yet.

So first step, make over : New Hair, New Make Up and New Style
Closely followed by step two : Exercise regime (make a plan, set a goal and stick to it)

Let me know in the comments below, what you think of the list idea and, if you've read the book how it affected you.

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